How to Make Your Resolutions a Reality

After you have identified the life changes you want to make, the next step to focus on is how to make these resolutions a reality.  Whether your goals include a healthier lifestyle, changing job/careers, starting a business, getting out of debt, or having happier relationships, here are a few tips:

  1. Be ready to make a change.  By being ready, I mean look at your beliefs, feelings, and behaviors from an objective point of view and be willing to take whatever steps are necessary for change. 
  2. Take whatever action is necessary.  This requires going beyond just being willing.  This might be as simple as talking to your doctor about starting an exercise program or as complicated as making major changes in your lifestyle.  
  3. Eliminate self-sabotage.  First, you must consciously believe that your goal is possible.  Don’t make self-defeating statements such as ”I’m resistant to change”.  Yes, I actually had a client who continually said that and until she changed that conscious belief, she didn’t make any changes.  Replace all self-defeating statements with statements that sound true to you.  At first, this might be something like “I’m willing to change”.  You can then progress to more affirming statements such as “I am changing”.  Secondly, your conscious and subconscious mind must be in agreement in order to make a change.  If you have a conscious desire to attain a particular goal, but have subconscious beliefs that are in conflict with your goal, then you are going to hit  roadblocks.  For example, let’s say you have a conscious desire to go to college and get a degree, but you also have a subconscious belief that you’re not smart enough to go to college, then you will likely sabotage your efforts and probably not even know what happened. 
  4. Use tools to align your conscious and subconscious mind.  There are many different ways that this can be accomplished.  Some techniques, such as hynotherapy or EMDR, require the assistance of a trained professional.  Some tools, such as self-hypnosis, subliminal messages, guided imagery, and affirmations, can either be learned through books or through the use of CDs.  Prayer and meditation are powerful spiritual practices which anyone can do on their own.  Our subconscious minds are constantly exposed to new input, so it is important to use some form of daily meditation to keep our conscious and subconscious mind in alignment.  Because these tools are so important, I will discuss them in more detail in a future post.
  5. Take small steps.  Little steps may not seem like much, but they add up and result in big changes.  One of my favorite quotes from Robert Schuller is “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch.  Yard by yard, life is hard”. 
  6. Start each day with a clean slate.  Forget about any failures of the past, whether they occurred yesterday or ten years ago.  Keep your thoughts focused on the present moment.  “I start each day with a clean slate” is a great affirmation to say every morning. 
  7. Replace to erase.  Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “erase and replace” in relationship to changing habits.  Yet I find it works better to focus on replacing (with a new healthy habit) first and then the erasing (of the old habit) is much easier.  Either way you look at it, if you don’t replace the unhealthy habit with a healthy habit,  the unhealthy one will come back or be replaced by another unhealthy habit. 
  8. Be consistent, yet flexible.  What I mean by this is to be consistent with focusing on your goals in thoughts, words, and action.  However, life has a way of throwing obstacles in our path.  If this happens, be flexible.  Your goal might be to walk for two miles every day at 7am, but all kinds of things can happen to mess up your plans.  So if bad weather hits and you’re unable to walk outside, if you’re flexible, you’ll be able to come up with an alternate plan.

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